Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Restoring Health : Can you help?

Last month I was taking my general suppliments as usual, walking and jogging 3-5 miles a day and felt good. Healthy and happy, resting well at night. Then somehow a bad cold hit and I didnt feel like exercise.. often it is good to rest a couple days and that was my original intent. Then kids brought one germ after the other and today (a month later) I ended up in the ER with really bad chest pain, trouble breathing, extreme headache ext . I was warned its not pneumonia...yet ... and given a shot of steriods and another shot of even stronger antibiotics along with an rx for a z-pack.

My bronchitis is Not viral but from strep and I have heart issues so I will be finishing the antibiotics.
Question is besides probiotics which Im currently taking 3 times a day but not 2 hours before or 4 hours after the antibiotics... what are Your other go to's?

Friday, December 9, 2011

Go to your room! and other parenting fallacies.

Ive been surprised by the number of people who seem offended when they find out that I feel like sending my youngest to her room is wrong and innefective as discipline. So I thought Id try to explain why I feel this way.
First, its NOT that Im always against sending a child to their room.  Half an hour with a book in a quiet room can be a huge blessing for an overwhelmed child.
This particular child though has a huge issue with being told no. She is stubborn to the core and would spend 3 straight hours arguing with you if she thought she might finally get her way.
Mom can J come over? No mam J's mom and I haven't made any arrangements and your brother is sick. " oh well I could go over there" " what if she happens to walk over here" why not? well what if? and on and on and on.
This usually progresses to me forbidding her to utter another word on the subject for the rest of the day, and sadly, it often progresses from there.
So why not just send her to her room , get her out of my hair and not have to listen to it? Well I tried it a few times and it seemed much easier. I must admit it makes me so angry to have to go through this over and over again and I really DON'T want to deal with it.
After just a few times of go to your room I saw the ugly consequence for this particular child. Her sense of entitlement increased. She became more angry at me for not letting her do what she wanted,. The longer she stayed the more sullen and pouty she became and anything I tried to tell her when she came out just bounced right back at me.
When I keep her with me I can guide her, model correct responses, and help her work to control her emotions. When she still has work to do but I see she is trying , I can immediatly praise that effort.  Thats my goal because Id rather be less comfortable now than to have a young adult who can't keep a job because she dosen't have any respect for authority and cannot graciously accept that in life , more often than you'd like, the answer is no.

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Literature based curriculum users ...I want to hear from you !

What does it look like with more than one child esp if they are several grades apart?

Sonlight or TOG ? or something completely different?

How do you teach a kid to write well if you are not a skilled writer? ( seen my blog? yup uh huh that would be me :D )

 Why do you like this style of curriculum?

What advice would you give to make getting started easier?

Be honest :) is there anything you find difficult or don't like?

What do you grade if you need to provide a grade report or proof of work ?

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

to be sensible, pure workers at home, kind, subject to their own husbands`titus2:5

Is it just me ? If find myself once again in this position where Im totally overwhelmed. Ive been doing things away from home and often doing so to help others out. Helping others is by no means bad but I get home and find myself overwhelmed by the mess.

When I keep things on schedule and picked up Im calm. The day flows better and Im at peace but when the dirty dishes sit in the sink, laundry is piled high , and so on I seriously can't think straight. I'm gripy and tend to shut down.

The thing is my husband and children don't seem to share this "anxiety chip" that makes larger explosions the worse the house is.

So I want to know...what's it like at your house? Did god design us this way? or is it completely different for you?

Monday, March 21, 2011

Book Adventure

I found a link for Courtney that gives tests over books then awards point that can be traded in on small prizes. I hesitated on whether or not post the link because I'm not overly thrilled about awarding kids for (or bribing kids into) reading. If you give kids good books with real story lines reading becomes the reward.

A child of mine specifically asked for AR tests. Knowing this child well and seeing that her head is constantly buried in a book regardless of points given I decided to use it as another tool at my disposal to test comprehension.

There are a few prizes you can have mailed after your child collects a certain number of points which could have some value with a really reluctant reader :)


First swim of the season

Wouldn't it be kewl if this post has a picture? Well, it dosen't but one day soon I'll actually get pictures and post them.

I got a new camera. I brought it to the hotel with me. We all got ready to go swimming and I left it up in the room. Mr. Hyper boy was already 1. In a strange new place 2. Dressed and ready to go swimming 3. Had the pool in sight.

He has a very hard time understanding we are coming right back. I wanted him and the girls to have a good time and I knew if I drug him out of the pool area and back upstairs for the camera I'd be in for quite a tantrum.

I did not want to deal with a screaming 9 year old dropping to the floor in the middle of hotel halls :) Therefore, our first swim of the season is picture free.

Babycakes improved on her swimming skills and will be swimming more the last 9 weeks of school for her P.E. credit. Spunky monkey met a little friend and had a great time diving for coins. Mr Hyper just amazed me with his progress in just an hour! In the past he has always spent most of the time just sitting on the side of the pool then clinging to me so badly I needed a crowbar to pry him off. I can't figure it out though because this is the same child that has gone running into our pond, would take 5 baths a day if I let him and would likely go right into the lake behind our house if given a chance. He has absolutely 0 fear of water everywhere except swimming pools.
Yesterday I let him spend about 10 minutes sitting at the side of the pool. He needs that time to really asses his surroundings and get comfortable. Once he seemed to relax a bit I brought him in the pool to bounce and play motor boat a bit.
Then I got him to let go of me and hang on to the side alone for a minute. It helped build confidence in him and gave me a chance to work with the girls. Once I took him off the side he was happily willing to just hold onto my hands instead of my entire body using both his arms and legs. He kicked his legs, blew bubbles for me and squealed with delight.

At the end we got in the hot tub for a few minutes to warm up. Mr. Hyper laid his head on my shoulder and almost fell asleep.

Oh yea! Me thinks we will be going swimming a LOT this year ;)

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Little heathen bodies all over my house.

Today Ive taken deep breaths while waiting at the doctor with my son and little 4 year old C. We had to wait a very long time to get seen but wait we must as N had a very high fever....which dosen't mix well with his seizure disorder. During this time I hear no less than 130 times from MR C " I want to watch Toy Story 3" . Breathe, redirect , move on.

Off to pick up the twins. Now these little guys have downs but don't let that fool you...they are clever. I got such sweet smiles as they climbed in my car ready to go home with me. The sweetness was short lived. They fed cheese crackers to my carpet soon after we got home and took juice in the living room and spilled it. It's a good thing they are great at helping clean up :)

N was done with being calm and patient for the day so it was time to hit H in the car.  What on earth do you do when one is hitting another in the back? If I keep pulling over I will never get there.

On to big K and C. I must brag they are huge helpers but there was worry about not being able to get K's mom on the phone and I worried with them. At least untill A decided to attach to me like velcro.

A , along with N and C have the flu. A however did not want to accept the fact that despite everything I had tried she still did not feel one bit better. I failed miserably in my reaction to this child who demanded more sympathy than I had the strength and patience to give.

Now I look around at all 7 of their sweet sleeping faces and I love them all over again. I hope they feel the same way in the morning.

Monday, February 14, 2011

A Prayer Request

Ive decided that writing about all the frustrating things that have happened over the past couple of weeks can wait one more day.

In the meantime, I have a much more important matter. Will you please join me in praying for J and his family. It breaks my heart . J is a sweet boy in Nates special needs class who always has a smile or a hug for me. His mother passed away recently.

I just hope he will feel the arms of Jesus wrapped around him and know he is not alone as he comes to fully understand what happened. :(

Monday, January 24, 2011


Right now my children are wards of the state.2 of the 3 will be coming home next year and I can't wait. No, child protective services didn't take them away or anything like that :) they go to public school. From 7:30 a.m -3:20 pm each weekday the state tells them when and how long to work on a subject, what to learn, when to eat, when they can use the restroom, ect.
Ok I'm hearing it already gee, isn't that a bit harsh N-sanity?  What about the excellent highly trained teachers? What about preparing for college? Socialization, working together on projects? How about that nifty free breakfast for all and for some kids free lunch? Some kids wouldn't eat if it were not for the free breakfast and lunch at school. Why!?? would you want to home school?

To make it clear, I love love LOVE many of the teachers in our district.I am thankful to have great teachers for my kids while I recovered this year. Most really seem to have a huge heart for our kiddos. They give up their personal time to run booths at carnivals and teach at church functions after school hours. They really want to see the kids succeed but they are limited. They have classes of 20-30 students which makes it impossible to teach one on one. They are forced to teach by the curriculum .As trained as they may be, I know my children best. At home I can slow down if one is not getting a concept or move on when I see they are getting bored. If a certain curriculum dosen't click with my children I can change it.
College? Homeschooled students do better on standardized tests and college entry.  On average homeschooled students scored higher on standardized tests, and are admitted into honors classes at a higher rate.

Socialization and group projects? Ok even those who really object to homeschooling will usually admit that, on average we are out involved in the community and don't lock our kids in a dungeon under the house. In my adult life I cannot think of a time I was put on a project because my last name was in the v-z range or because all people of the same age were assigned to it. No, it was based on whether my ability, interest, education, and personality would contribute to the project in a positive way.

All over the U.S. kids and parents get together in co-ops. They have classes, take field trips together, put on plays and musicals, and preform service projects together. There are people of different ages and talents working together with younger or less experienced ones learning as they go.

The last common subject, school breakfast and lunches. At risk of sounding callous, I must say it is the parent's responsibility to feed their children not the school's. If food is honestly a problem there are many ways to lower other expenses or get assistance that not only feed kids but feed them much healthier meals than served at most public schools.

Why would I want to homeschool? Because I'm selfish :) I like being the first one they come tell the end of their book to , the one the practice reciting their bible versus to, the one that gets to watch the light bulb go off when they finally get how to write 25,000,000 in expanded notation by powers of 10, and the one they snuggle up with in the early morning as the bus drives right on by :)

Friday, January 21, 2011

One smart kid ;)

I have several things I want to write about but just don't have the words right now. I also have a sick little one so instead I leave you with this awesome video.
Sorry I cannot seem to get the actual video in my post so you'll just have to click the linky.


Sunday, January 16, 2011

Cautiously Optimistic

Tomorrow Nate and I will drive into Dallas to see a new pediatrician. This is a test visit to see if we will transfer all of our children's care to him. Recently our old pedi dismissed us from her practice. If feel its unethical of her to see my children for 3 years then suddenly leave them without care esp my youngest who has asthma and my middle who has seizures.

I can't say I'm looking forward to going to yet another doctor,but not providing my children with medical care would be negligent at best. 

I am hopeful that he dosen't always see the answer in a pill. I'm not against medication :) At times, such as when my little one can't breathe, I thank god that it is available. I just hope that he is willing to help me find ways to Prevent the symptoms from showing up instead of just treating them as they do. I hope that questioning any proposed treatment will not only be allowed but encouraged.

Is that really to much to ask out of a doctor?

I Read a Book.

Having Mr. Hyper into everything as my son, I spend a lot more time disciplining than reading books about discipline. However, here and there during rare moments of quiet I have finally read Shepherding a Child's Heart. If you haven't read it you really should.

I didn't agree with every single thing in the book but I do think it had a great message about a parents duty to disciple and discipline their children.

Saturday, January 15, 2011

I'm confused: Enzymes vs. Diet

Ok my blog has about 0 followers right now but I am going to type this out anyway. If someone happens upon this post and has a helpful comment well jump right in :D.

On a gluten,casein,soy free diet my son's agressive behavior greatly decreased but he was constantly hungry and constantly craving non allowed food. We had to padlock our pantry because he was constantly after food in it.

Two weeks ago we started giving him food enzymes with meals and allowed him to have all foods. I continued gfcf snacks at school because I cannot be there to give the enzymes all day.

Ive looked over his school reports carefully along with my own observations at school and at home. His hyperactivity and aggressiveness has increased some and I fear it might get even worse again. 

There are other factors that could be involved. The return from christmas break followed by 2 days off due to snow and ice.

Ive also noticed something unexpected. His ability to choose and do things without being told or physically guided has surfaced over the past week. For example, during center time he went and got a toy and showed his para then sat down and played with it. On the diet he seems to have an obsession with eating . He would choose a snack or drink picture 90% of the time over any other activities. With the enzymes and a greater variety of food this obsession has nearly vanished.

So now I have to wonder...is the increased aggressiveness due to confusion because of the normal break in schedule and nothing to worry about? Or is it a reaction due to non allowed foods and going to get worse as time goes by? If it is due to allergens then is there a nutrient he is missing with the gfcf diet that needs to be supplemented better? Or possibly does the enzyme dosage need to be increased and/or given during snacks also?

Vaccine Madness!

Something has been on my mind lately. Maybe its simply because the conversation has come up more or maybe it truly is increasing, but, Ive noticed an increasing number of people flat refusing to vaccinate at all.

Many people know that my third child is only partially vaccinated. I have concerns with a couple and literature telling me that a particular vaccine is unsafe for her. I do not have proof that my son's autism was caused partially or fully by vaccines. I do however have records of  vaccines that correlates with onset of symptoms.

Anyhow this post isn't really about vaccines causing autism or not causing autism. Its about children's health and well being. Before you refuse to vaccinate your child please PLEASE do your research on each individual vaccine and weigh your decision carefully.

If you choose not to vaccinate against a disease, do you know the symptoms of that disease ? Do you know what the disease will probably do and what in the worst case scenario it could do? Do you know what treatments are available?
Are you a stay at home mom who can easily keep our child home to prevent it from spreading or is your child in daycare, making it more likely he/she will contract something and you will loose pay from work?

Are there ways you can make the vaccines safer such as spreading them out, not giving tylenol before the vaccine, and giving vitamin supplements before and after?

If after all of the above you decide that 1,2 or all of the vaccines are not good for your child ok,  just know that you must be prepared to deal with whatever happens.

To all the doctors out there. Many parents are becoming concerned about the safety of vaccinations. Many of you are dismissing us from your practice because we refuse to fully vaccinate. May I remind you that you are there to be a partner in our children's treatment? Instead of unethical bullying tactics why not hear our concerns and work with us to find the vaccines that are safe for our individual children and give them at times to promote optimal safety, not according to a schedule of convenience?

Do NOT dismiss us as over emotional and throw "research" at us that is done by the very people that are making money off the vaccinations.